SAYING NO CAN BE AWESOME
Oh, honey, let's talk about the power of NO. It's a two-way street, ya know? Knowing when to say no and recognizing when you're using it as an excuse to stay in your cozy little bubble are equally crucial. In this fast-paced, get-it-done world, when do you actually stop to ask yourself if what you're doing is worth your precious time and energy? And why is this a wellness issue?
Listen up, darlings, if you keep saying yes to every little thing that comes your way, you're gonna crash and burn. Taking care of others is all fine and dandy, but you gotta take care of yourself first, boo. Otherwise, you'll end up feeling like a deflated balloon with no life left in ya. And that's just sad. You need to look out for numero uno if you wanna show up for the people and moments that truly matter to you. You know what they say, "Jack of all trades, master of none." So, how do you actually say no, you ask? Well, besides the wellness exercises we suggest, like journaling, meditating, and exercising to get your "aha" moment, you can make a freakin' list! Yup, grab a pen and paper and divide it into two columns. In column A, write down all the things and people YOU want to show up for and say yes to. In column B, write down all the things and people OTHERS want you to show up for and say yes to. Sure, some of these may be actual life obligations, like a job you can't avoid, but others? Well, let's just say you might wanna take a closer look. Be honest with yourself and ask, "Is this really serving me and others?" 'Cause sis, you can't show up for anything or anyone when you're running on empty. Oh, and when someone asks you to do something and your gut reaction isn't an immediate yes, make a pros and cons list. It's not rocket science, hun. Sometimes the coolest thing you can do is say no. Your heart may wanna say yes to the whole frickin' world, but your mind, body, and spirit just can't handle it. So take a deep breath, strike a power pose, and for the love of all things holy, just say NO!
Now, let's flip the script, shall we? It's way easier to say yes to other people's wants, needs, and dreams than it is to say yes to your own. And that can make it easy to say no to yourself and back away when things get tough or uncomfortable. But honey, we're here to remind you to be a YES for yourself! If you keep saying no to your hopes, dreams, goals, ideas, needs, and feelings, then you're gonna keep getting the same old boring results. And who wants that? So, here's our tip for you. Start noticing when you're playing small and staying comfortable because it's too damn hard to step out of your comfort zone. Then ask yourself, "Will playing it safe get me what I want?" And just like before, grab a pen and paper and make that list, boo. In column A, write down your goals, dreams, desires, and needs. In column B, write down the actions, conversations, and commitments that will make you uncomfortable but will help you achieve what you want. Think about it, sis. Why are you holding yourself back? The world needs you to shine bright like a diamond and play big. So go ahead, take that leap, and start saying YES to yourself. You got this, superhero!